It basically ruined his life, more like it. But of course Jada Pinkett Smith is world champion “making something about me”. Imagine a young man whose father mercilessly abused his mother for years. Was unfaithful to her. His life was rough, his childhood brutal. And all he wants is to marry a woman, love her, devote himself to her and their children. Give them the childhood he never had.
He is wired for monogamy. He’s a one woman type of lad. But she isn’t… she is “free spirited” and wants to have an “open relationship”. Wants to be able to ‘see’ other men. He goes along with it. Even though it isn’t him. Isn’t his style. And it breaks his heart, every time she walks out the door to meet another “boyfriend”. But he doesn’t want to break his family. His marriage has to work. He’s desperate to make it all work out.
Some people are made to be with one person. Others simply aren’t. And when two people who are incompatible in such a massively fundamental way get together? It’s a tragedy. The Smith-Pinkett marriage is like a terrible car crash we have all been witnessing for decades as it unfolds before our very eyes in tabloids and round tables discussions and interviews, one shady little detail at a time. Their partnership has become a punching bag, a meme, a joke for everyone but the people involved. Will Smith has out on a brave face, kept his head high but we all have our limits and he’s clearly reaches his, long ago, his strength stretched thin.
You can just slap a nice little label on it. “Oh he’s spineless, a cuck, pussy-whipped, lol what a loser” and be done with it. But that’s an overly simplistic and rather cruel way of describing the tragedy that is Mr. and Mrs. Smith. It’s like one of those early-in-life relationships where you discover fairly early on that your partner is totally not “your person”. There are monumental differences you know you can’t overcome. Red flags galore. You may hang on for a while… but you know things are doomed. Now imagine such a relationship NOT ending, because one of the partners is desperate to not ‘fail’. That’s the sad situation we’re dealing with here. Decades of ‘sunk cost fallacy’ and childhood trauma keeping two souls tied together that have no business being together.
Marrying a man she was clearly not compatible with has been an absolute disaster for both Will Smith and his wife Jada. They both suffered. He indulged her. She enjoyed herself. While all it did for him was wear him down. Last March he reached his breaking point… it was a long time coming.
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